Resolving Conflict In A Healthy Way
Every relationship will eventually face conflict. We all come with history and baggage, so it will arise. Big or small, conflict is natural and actually not a bad thing.
We get into trouble when we have unresolved conflict. When we don’t face the issue with the other person it starts to eat away at us AND the relationship.
So then how do we face conflict in a Godly way?
Pray to see if God wants you to talk about the issue with the other person.
If you feel God doesn’t want you to bring it up to them, pray that you can show grace to the other person.
The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence. Proverbs 10:11
Make sure you are coming from a place of love and truth.
What you are saying should be uplifting and truthful words, not an attack or a way to break the person down.
“A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.” Proverbs 15:18
Listen to the other person with an open mind.
There are two sides to every story, and if you want to be heard make sure the other person is heard as well. Respect their point of view.
“Do you see someone who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for them.” Proverbs 29:20
Work towards fixing the issue.
Work with the person to find a way to move forward and learn from the situation.
“The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.” Proverbs 19:8
Confronting conflict can be awkward and make us uncomfortable. But when we approach it knowing we have allowed God into the situation, it becomes a stepping stone instead of a road block in our relationships and friendships.